How the Lunar Eclipse Helped Me Break a Toxic Pattern in My Relationships
Ever felt like the universe was sending you a wake-up call? I'm not an astrology expert, but I do catch myself blaming the moon for my emotional upheavals. And last week, during the March 25th lunar eclipse in Libra, it felt like the stars were practically screaming at me to make a change. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, emotional regulation, or toxic relationship patterns, you're not alone. This post is for you.
How the Lunar Eclipse Sparked Change On March 25th, the lunar eclipse in Libra illuminated imbalanced relationship dynamics. For me, it triggered a hard but necessary realization: I was stuck in a disempowering pattern of over-performing to feel "enough." This eclipse didn’t just shine a light on my behavior—it demanded a shift.
My Relationship Pattern: Over-Performing to Feel Worthy When I don’t feel like I’m enough just as I am, I tend to over-perform. I pour energy into doing more than necessary—even when no one is asking. The result? Exhaustion, resentment, frustration, and deep shame. It damages my communication, shuts me down, and makes me question my self-worth.
Emotional Regulation Practice That Helps My new homework: the moment I feel emotionally dysregulated (a tight chest, a hot throat), I pause. I find a mirror and say to myself, "I’m not leaving you. You are enough. You don’t need to over-perform. Slow down. I love you."
Yes, it feels awkward. But it's a powerful act of emotional regulation and self-support.
Why I’m Sharing This
You’re not alone in feeling like you're not enough.
As adults, it's our job to recognize and shift the patterns that no longer serve us.
Healing isn't easy—but it is worth it.
Group Coaching: The Power of Healing Together This realization was so timely that our live Alignment call (my group coaching program) focused on relationships that same week. It resonated deeply with everyone. There’s nothing like processing these patterns in community—being witnessed without judgment is healing in itself.
Here are the journal prompts we explored:
Who are the 2-3 most important relationships in your life?
What repetitive interpersonal pattern would you like to shift?
How would your life change if you let that pattern go?
Join Us in The Alignment If you’re craving meaningful self-work and real connection, consider joining The Alignment group coaching program. It's a space where you're supported, not judged—and where you don’t have to do the hard stuff alone.